Parent-Teacher Conference - A Movement In Time And Space
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Parent-Teacher Conference
We just got back from having a PTC with Maya's teacher. It's all good, so I wasn't worried. Some things she said about Maya:

1. She's a smart girl, but needs confidence in her abilities.

2. She is a very good listener (of course she is! She saves it all up for school!).

3. She pays close attention to details and is meticulous.

4. But, she is a little slow at doing her work as a result of her close attention to details.

5. She is hesitant at new things because she wants to things correctly from the get-go.

6. She is very social, but a little sensitive to things. For instance, at recess, all the girls will be playing at something and then suddenly decide to go do something else. They just run to the new thing, sometimes not telling all of the group what's going on. Maya will think they are leaving her. :-( About this, I am a little worried about it because EVERYONE in her class was at this school last year. Maya is the ONLY new student in the class. But overall, her teacher said that she is fitting in just fine.

7. She is very, very strong in her writing and reading. And she is right on par with her numbers and math. I expect as much, because I worked with her more on letters, writing and reading. I hardly worked with her on math. But it is good to know that she is at the same level in that area as everyone else.

8. She is very polite to everyone in class. And she expects everyone else to be that way to her.

Boy, she sounds a lot like me. Poor girl - I hope she evens out a bit!! I would like her to not be so sensitive. I want her to not feel a huge need to fit in and I want her to be stronger in her personality and more confident in herself. Both Chris and I need to work on not being so hard on her. We both, especially I, need to be more patient.

And I have to tell her that I'm proud of her more often. I think I'll go and do that right now, in fact.

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From: scarslet Date: December 9th, 2005 02:58 am (UTC) (Link)
She sounds like me when I was her age...but she does sound like a wonderful student. The teacher must adore her.

You and Chris are good parents...don't doubt it. I know that I need to work on my patience with Gregory sometimes but he loves me and accepts my mistakes for what they are. Of course, he's a little older than Maya but he does understand that I'm doing this parenting kick for the first time...pretty bright for an almost-seven-year-old!
priyabradfield From: priyabradfield Date: December 11th, 2005 03:22 am (UTC) (Link)
Thanks! I think we're doing a pretty good job, so far. We sometimes expect too much from them, but that's better than not expecting enough. We just need more patience.

Accepting mistakes from other people is a pretty good lesson to learn! Gregory seems to be pretty mature for a seven-year-old. :-)
estivalfiend From: estivalfiend Date: December 9th, 2005 03:20 am (UTC) (Link)
you have wonderful children. :)
priyabradfield From: priyabradfield Date: December 11th, 2005 03:23 am (UTC) (Link)
Thank you! :-)
shavingsheep From: shavingsheep Date: December 9th, 2005 03:40 am (UTC) (Link)
AWWW...that's so sweet! She is a wonderful little girl!!!
eleme From: eleme Date: December 9th, 2005 03:53 am (UTC) (Link)
Glad it went so well! It's interesting to hear about parent teacher conferences from your side of the table :)
sammykate From: sammykate Date: December 9th, 2005 04:51 am (UTC) (Link)
She sounds a whole lot like Justice, too. But then, we already knew that, didn't we? I swear sometimes the two of them seem more like sisters than Justice and Hallie. Justice may be a little more...let's go with "intense." She gets really worked up about things sometimes. But she has relaxed so much since she started school. Just today, a friend she has known since Kindergarten said, "Justice, you're much more fun and funny than you used to be!"
priyabradfield From: priyabradfield Date: December 11th, 2005 03:25 am (UTC) (Link)
Intense is a great word to describe both Maya and Justice, the secret sisters!
From: gabbytheguy Date: December 9th, 2005 07:44 am (UTC) (Link)
She sounds like she's doing just fine doesn't she?!

It must be hard for you guys with the move and everything, and I'm sure that must be having an effect on both your kids. In the long run I think that'll be a good thing, but I'm sure it must be hard to try to fit in at this time.

It also will help if her classmates take her under their wing a bit more...
priyabradfield From: priyabradfield Date: December 11th, 2005 03:28 am (UTC) (Link)
Maya's teacher said that she talked to the girls about letting everyone in the group know what they are doing. But there is only so much you can do with 5 and 6 years old.

The effects of the move on Maya are subtle, but they are starting to show themselves. I'm not sure how I feel about whether to send her to a school next year that limits the number of Korean students or to a school that doesn't have those limits...
shortindiangirl From: shortindiangirl Date: December 10th, 2005 11:15 am (UTC) (Link)
This was fun to read. Somehow, just from seeing her pics, thinking about her and hearing the short descriptions you have given of her, I almost seemed to know 1 thru 6 about her. I think it shows in her eyes.

> Maya will think they are leaving her.

Part of her need to fit in I suppose. Some people may have this need innately, while others don't. Reminds me of what you said about her crying when the Indian kids rejected her when she was 4.

She will be a wonderfully sensitive human being as she grows up because she appears to have the kind of insecurity that will allow her to be deeply connected to the world around her. As long as she can transform that into self confidence, but still keep the connections and the sensitivity to her surroundings... Something about her eyes tell me that it will be so.

She's got the soft eyes of a child who gives of herself to others around her. You must be so proud.
priyabradfield From: priyabradfield Date: December 11th, 2005 04:26 am (UTC) (Link)
I know that I already told you this when we chatted, but your comment made me cry (in a good way). Yes, I am so extremely proud of her and her personality and compassion. As I said in my entry, her teacher told us that she is very polite to all her classmates. She also said that Maya is caring as well - for instance when a child gets hurt or is sad, Maya will ask if that child is ok.

You know what though? I worry that she is too caring...because she expects it of others. And is upset when it isn't reciprocated.

How do you balance teaching compassion without making them weak?

Hmmm...more fodder for another blog post!
shortindiangirl From: shortindiangirl Date: December 11th, 2005 08:12 am (UTC) (Link)
Teach her to be compassionate even when she gets nothing back. I would fear that if she wasn't taught this, she may become disappointed and disillusioned and be frustrated with the world.
shortindiangirl From: shortindiangirl Date: December 10th, 2005 11:17 am (UTC) (Link)
Don't forget to tag your entry.
priyabradfield From: priyabradfield Date: December 11th, 2005 03:28 am (UTC) (Link)
Thanks for the reminder! I did it now. :-)
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