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Last night at dinner, Maya leaned over and asked me when we're going back to California. !! I asked her why she wanted to go back and she said, "I miss my preschool and all my friends. And I think they miss me too."

Yes, baby, I'm pretty sure they miss you. Who wouldn't?


I was watching Oprah earlier today (on AFN) and the topic was things that kids do that are dangerous. Things like street racing. One thing was the choking game. WTF? Apparently, kids choke themselves to pass out momentarily so they can feel the high of coming back to. Where do kids get these ideas?? Some of them wrap something around their necks to choke themselves since they aren't strong enough to use their bare hands. One of the parents on the show who lost his son to this "game" said that the last thing he said to his son, who was going over to his friend's house, was "Have a good time. See you later." He said that he always took that for granted, that he would see his son later.

I swear, I had a bit of a panic attack. I said something to that effect to Maya this morning when she left for school. I had fight the urge to call the school to make sure she was ok. I held on to Nadia just a bit tighter while I was nursing her...

I'm glad I'm leaving in a 1/2 hour to pick her up at school and that she won't be riding the bus home.

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What I'm feeling: worried worried

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From: ilenebook Date: November 21st, 2005 04:57 am (UTC) (Link)
I feel your mommyness and one-up you two sons just returned from Iraq.
It is ok to feel like you do. I just wish we didn't all live in such a world where paranoia is common. Too many things out there can hurt us and our children.
I am glad you are a protective mommy but try not to let them become so fearful that life is not joyful. Delicate balance there, yes?
priyabradfield From: priyabradfield Date: November 21st, 2005 10:38 am (UTC) (Link)
Delicate balance, indeed! Hence why I did not call the school. :-)
gfailure From: gfailure Date: November 21st, 2005 06:28 am (UTC) (Link)
Great, now I'm going to be stressed out all day tomorrow until my nephew steps off the bus.
priyabradfield From: priyabradfield Date: November 21st, 2005 10:42 am (UTC) (Link)
Sorry. I hate spreading the paranoia around...

From: glk71 Date: November 21st, 2005 07:23 am (UTC) (Link)
I know we did some dumb-ass things at school, but that takes the biscuit!
priyabradfield From: priyabradfield Date: November 21st, 2005 10:46 am (UTC) (Link)
Doesn't it? Sheesh, what kid thought, "hey, let me choke myself and see what it feels like."

Scary though...
From: cbscribe Date: November 21st, 2005 10:40 am (UTC) (Link)
I'm sorry, but that's just dumb. If your kid is so bonehead stupid that they're going to let somebody choke them to death, then there's really nothing you can do as a parent.

It's like those kids who set themselves on fire because they saw it on Jackass: natural selection.

And don't get me started on media sensationalism. A few idiots do something stupid and suddenly every Oprah and Dr. Phil is on a terrify-the-parents rampage. "Do you know what your kids are doing?"

priyabradfield From: priyabradfield Date: November 21st, 2005 10:52 am (UTC) (Link)
I'm not surprised. :-p

I know, I know - I shouldn't be watching topics like that. Even so, I don't think you can just blame the media for EVERYTHING. Obviously, a few kids have done this, a few kids have died from it. I'd rather be terrified and warn the kids at the appropriate age than to not know at all.

Oh, and it wasn't necessarily others choking the kids - some of them did it to themselves. And even still, nothing you can do as a parent except to talk to them and try and be more involved in their lives and know who their friends are...

gfailure From: gfailure Date: November 21st, 2005 06:36 pm (UTC) (Link)
Jackass: Natural Selection would be a great title for that show.
From: djpekky Date: November 21st, 2005 05:06 pm (UTC) (Link)
I chocked myself a few times when I was small.

Looking back, I can see why am I as crazy as I am now. :P


sammykate From: sammykate Date: November 21st, 2005 06:34 pm (UTC) (Link)
When I was in 6th grade, a friend and classmate of mine died choking himself. There was a lot of controversy about why he was doing this in the first place -- I guess sometimes it is a sexual thing? Anyway, it was horrible and shocking.

It horrifies me sometimes to think of the things I need to discuss with my children. I have an 8-year-old who has already been propositioned by a boy at school! I know a lot of people say things are no worse than they were when we were kids -- that the media is just playing up violence and risk factors that may affect our children -- but I SWEAR TO GOD nobody was propositioning me when I was seven and eight years old!!!!
priyabradfield From: priyabradfield Date: November 22nd, 2005 07:56 am (UTC) (Link)
I know - some people say that things haven't changed, we're just more aware. Whatever it is, it is scary at the young ages our kids are exposed to the vices of this world.
meadowflower From: meadowflower Date: November 24th, 2005 01:37 am (UTC) (Link)
Aww.......*sniff* the poor thing misses her friends! Oh it's heartbreaking.

My kids have had some close friends over the years that have moved. It's really been hard. We tried to stay in touch here as best we could, but after awhile, it's tough if you're not seeing each other frequently. We've lost touch with quite a few that we've been close to. I guess it's comforting to know that at least we're all twirling around together on this same planet...
priyabradfield From: priyabradfield Date: November 24th, 2005 01:52 am (UTC) (Link)
Yeah, every so often, she thinks of her life back there. I'm not sure what makes her think of it or say something about it. This comment of hers was completely out of the blue.

I moved a lot growing up and it always makes me sad to think of the great friends I've lost contact with. Granted, I was a kid and didn't really make an effort, but when I was in high school, I did but got poor reception from the majority of my friends I left in Orlando. I do remember making a decision to not get close with anyone in my new school, since I knew I was going to leave in two years for college. I hated it and was glad to get out and off to college. Kind of sad that I reacted in that way.

I often wonder where those people are and sometimes try to do an online search for some of them. Never with any luck though. :-(
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