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priyabradfield
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Schools and a vent...
Maya's current school only goes up until Kingergarten, so we are back to looking at schools for her for 1st grade and beyond. I'm so not looking forward to paying for it, but it seems like it is unavoidable here (for an English school). I never in my life thought that I would send my children to private school. I was so against doing it in the US, not just for the money, but for the interaction. But here, I guess I don't need to worry about the interaction - Maya gets enough of interaction with people who are not exactly like her.

Anyway, so I sent an email to Seoul Foreign School, one of the best-known English schools here in Seoul. And I was sure that there was going to be a long waiting list for next year. But, I just got an email from Seoul Foreign School saying there is no waiting list for the 2006-2007 school year. WOW! I am totally shocked at that...I don't know whether to take it as a good sign or a bad one!

But of course, the cost of going there for one year will probably be close to $20,000, when all the fees and extras are included (what is this, a car?). For 1st grade. I wonder if the crown moulding is real gold or only silver...

And I'm not even talking about the cost to send Nadia to preschool next year.

This sort of brings me to a vent...I was talking to some of the other mothers at Maya's school about all this. And I was commenting on how expensive all the schools are. And they said, "Why does that matter? Doesn't your husband's work pay for it?" Uh...no, they don't. "Oh, well, you are getting your housing paid for, right?" Strike two, ladies. "So, wait, you don't have a car, so no car or driver allowance either...what do they pay for?"
Just a straight salary for my husband.

"WHAT?? WHY DID YOU GUYS MOVE OUT HERE THEN??"

Sometimes, I have no freaking clue...

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From: junetoo Date: November 8th, 2005 04:33 am (UTC) (Link)
*hugs* I also thought GP was paying your bills! Asian companies usually pay for literally everything for hauling you to Asia. But I guess not since GP is so new; and started by an American maybe?

How is Maya doing with her Korean?

From the language theories I've study in school an adult who is interacting daily in a foreign language should pick it up within three-six months. Children are supposed to learn much faster. From what I've witnessed with friends and my own personal experiences that's pretty accurate. Is there a language school you can send Maya to now so she can attend Korean school next year? Though I have no idea how you feel about Maya being in the Korean school system. It has it's pros and cons just like American public school.
priyabradfield From: priyabradfield Date: November 8th, 2005 05:13 am (UTC) (Link)
I suppose I'm not being totally fair. GP would probably pay for everything if it could - but it is still so new. It's priorities are different right now. And, we did agree to coming here without all the perks. It is just talking to the other wives, who are not military wives, got me a bit peeved.

Actually, Chris told me this morning that Maya read some Korean in the elevator! So, I guess her tutoring sessions are paying off. I asked the teacher about adding another day (once soccer is done), but she has no other free days. :-(

The reason we didn't send Maya to a Korean school in the first place was that we didn't want to put undue pressure on her. She was already worried about fitting in and I see some of that still. But she wants to learn so that she doesn't feel so lost. She has directly said so.

I want to put Nadia into a Korean preschool for this very reason. She's young enough that the "fitting in" factor doesn't matter.
From: junetoo Date: November 8th, 2005 06:11 am (UTC) (Link)
Hopefully the company remembers the sacrifice and rewards you guys in double later!

Your Maya sounds like a real sweetie pie=)

I bet your parents have something to say about their grandchildren learning Korean lol. I know my parents appreciate my schooling in Asia, but aren't exactly thrilled over me not being able to speak my "native" language=P
priyabradfield From: priyabradfield Date: November 8th, 2005 07:58 am (UTC) (Link)
Well, that's the plan, so hopefully the company will grow and prosper the way it is supposed to.

I guess you'll be meeting Maya and Nadia soon enough! Hopefully you'll still think she is a sweetie pie. LOL She's got her moments, that's for sure. But for the most part, she's the bestest 5 year old ever.

My parents are a little disappointed, I'm sure, that Maya doesn't speak Tamil, but then I hardly do too. It is just the way it goes when you're raised in a country other than the one your parents were raised in. But, English is so much more virulent than Tamil, so we're not worried that they will lost the ability to speak English if they learn Korean.
minminminminnie From: minminminminnie Date: November 8th, 2005 05:11 am (UTC) (Link)
I think, when I'm older and have kids, I'm going to send my kids to a private school. I just asked my two friends and they said the same thing. I guess it's different since you're in Korea... I don't think I lacked too much with interaction... I got to meet people from all over Houston (literally... 114 zipcodes, I think).

$20k is a bit steep, though... although normal for some schools.

Being younger, I don't know about overseas jobs and moving and companies and all, but that does sound sucky. =/
priyabradfield From: priyabradfield Date: November 8th, 2005 08:22 am (UTC) (Link)
I think that my view of private schools is from the ones in CA. The population is all the same in those schools and not what I want for my children.

I don't mean to make blanket statements, but well, that's what usually happens, huh?

To be honest, I had little idea of what companies offer and pay for when hiring overseas. I'm starting to see what the "norm" is here and thus my vent.

gnotobiotically From: gnotobiotically Date: November 8th, 2005 05:43 am (UTC) (Link)
Gee... I wrote a reply, but I had to make a mad dash to Wal-Mart for items Nate needed for a school project.

Anyway, I came back and it wouldn't go through.

I was just going to say that I hope you get Maya's schooling worked out. It does sound a little crazy from what I gathered, and I hope things seem a little more balanced...
priyabradfield From: priyabradfield Date: November 8th, 2005 08:29 am (UTC) (Link)
Thank you, sweetie. Guess it will all work itself out, but it is a bit of a stress...
From: glk71 Date: November 8th, 2005 07:24 am (UTC) (Link)
And whats wrong with private school?!

I went to a private (we call them Public here in the UK - figure that one out if you can!) and turned out OK - well, I think so.

We've also talked about sending our daughter to private school in the future, simply because there's an attention to detail you don't get with a state education in the UK.

It's a tough call though, and who knows what lies in the future???
From: (Anonymous) Date: December 7th, 2005 01:12 am (UTC) (Link)

SFS

Hi Priya...

I'm sorry to hear that your company is sooo lame. I wish you luck on your decision. My husband and I work at SFS. I think that you will find it to be a good choice, but the cost is high. I know that SFS is a good school, but if money is an issue, there are other good ones out there too. Feel free to email me if you want any advice... I think the reason for the waiting list thing is that they are trying to make the school more available to interested individuals instead of making it impossible to get in. I know your frustrations are very valid... we are leaving after this school year, after being here for 3 years. email me: melissakolbo@sfs.or.kr

Melissa
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