I got THIS from my sister in response to THIS post. I'm writing here because she commented as anonymous and wouldn't get the response otherwise.
"Akhil, our first child.
I read this post at work, which I probably shouldn't have done, and it brought me to tears. Thank you very much for remembering. I don't know why, but this year was a little more difficult than the previous 2 years. There is the saying that we hear quite often, "Things happen for a reason." I can't stand this saying, but it is true. We may not know the reason, but GOD knows why he does what he does and that's all we have to go by. I am truly blessed to have such a loving and supportive family. I wouldn't have been able to make it through any of this with that.
I love you and miss you very much. I wish you could move back here because we are missing so much of the kids growing up and in our lives too. This is just how things have to be, at least for now!
I don't know why this year was harder. For me too, the whole month of February I was thinking of Akhil. I wonder why this year is different.
Of course I would remember! He's my nephew and you're my sister. I may not understand fully what you are going through, but I'm a mom too and what mother doesn't understand at least some of the pain you have? Plus, I hated seeing you go through this. I felt so helpless during that time. And also seeing Mom and Dad...I'm sure they felt helpless too. I understood that too. I'm sure you can imagine it now that you have Akash and Anjali.
The things that people say, like "Things happen for a reason" are meaningless except for the fact that they are only trying to comfort you when they don't know what else to say or do. I think that the explanation of Akhil being released from the karmic cycle helps me a lot...I don't know if it is true, but that's what faith is for. It helps.
We are all blessed to have each other. I only hope that Maya and Nadia and Akash and Anjali have the kind of relationship we do. I miss you lots too. This is hard, being away from each other and missing the kids' childhoods, but hopefully it will be for the better and later we won't have to worry about that at all. :-)
Until then, we have Skype and, when you go to Mom's or get your computer fixed, we have video too! If we had to be this far apart, at least we are during a time when communication around the world is what it is today.
Love you always too,